Comparing and contrasting is easy, it’s natural – but it’s not always that helpful. For example when it comes to learning it can promote more of a fixed versus growth mindset. Go there, but don’t fix and fixate. It’s just another data point.
Observe, it could be a good starting point, but probably is not a good ending point. Watch your inner narrative, don’t get stuck. Then shift to adapt and adopt. Taking the best and forgetting the rest, changing course
Recognising your preferences and priorities is one thing. The clock is ticking, sometimes taking because there is a lead and lag effect. It might take you a while to work out that X priority is now important to you. Too late and it could be a missed or mixed opportunity.
These 4 words (preference, priority, lead and lag) are all well and good but. And it’s a big but…you have to orientate your life around these. Deliberate action at first maybe. Back
Goal setting is a well held principle. We’ve got SMART ones all over the shop. But there are two factors that are crucial, being present and being positive.
A language of presence. ING. Developing, creating, being. You are already there right now, even if there is more to do. Bringing the goal to the present moment, not some far off distant mountain top.
Then keep it positive. Additions. Stated positively. A positive state. +++
Somewhat following up from a previous posting Don’t get high on the high street, I have spotted a mis-match of the highest proportions.
The corporate world wants you to have high self esteem. So that you can be at your best. But we promote low self esteem on the high street, through advertising, branding and comms. So that we can buy products that make us feel better about ourselves.
Of course it gets interesting when many of us flip between the two very
When it comes to personal development we often want more, to do something – to build our confidence for example. A typical, but maybe too stereo typical starting point. Equally (together with building) what do you need to break down? To stop, lessen or change.
If transformation is on the cards then most likely activities to break and build will surface, but the sequencing can be key. You might need to do more harm than (then) good initially. We need to hold
The clue is in the name, after flow you need a low. It’s a bit misleading because when we are acting and feeling our best we associate it with a high.
But in order to get there you need low resistance, a narrowed focus. Switch off and re-charge. Lower the pressure and any time restrictions. Do away with that always on mentality and profile. We all know you can’t keep it up.
We aren’t throwing the baby out with the bath water, trying to
Endure by Alex Hutchinson is a top book, mixing science, personal stories and even a few myths. There is no overwhelming message, instead it comes from the process of reading and shifting your own mindset.
Pleasing to see that there are no exact recommendations, just take from it want you want. Or what you need. “Nothing is inevitable, nothing is simply mathematical.” Now we can consider our own personal limits.
Just a quick edit to a well held question. One that ups the ante. Accountability goes through the roof and success and more likely to be guaranteed. Are you committed? What are you committed to doing next?
No let’s stop the tape and bring the question even closer. Uncomfortably so maybe. What are you a commitment to? No more talk and chitter chatter. Embody and embrace. No more gaps and cracks, commitment will fill those.
Values are at the heart of optimal performance. Being valuable. Valuing your values. But we often lose sight of some our basic needs and values.
But what are these? Well being seen and being safe might be at the route of all evil good.
Returning to authenticity (expressing your values skilfully in the environment around you) let’s see how these two line up.
Expressing aligns perfecting with the value of being seen. Express yourself.
Skilfully measures up against being safe. At the right time and
As the saying goes no one built an off switch. We go on and on and on. We are on and on and on.
Many of my coaching programme naturally gravitate towards this approach. Wanting more, kick starting, trying something new. But we might need to turn something off in order to save energy elsewhere. When you think about it this actually is a more logical place to start. A save before a sale. Keeping back some energy for other pursuits.