Why it’s good to lose your mind

Written by Stuart Haden on February 3, 2021

We are all in this game, the game of losing our mind. Getting lost, altered, state flow state. Getting out of our heads, a legal high. Accessing soul, body, heart, and spirit. If the mind is a blackboard we need an eraser from time to time.

Trouble is when we loose our mind we don’t know where we are. We might not know how to get back. But that is the territory, lose in order to gain.


When you learn, what can you adopt and adapt?

Written by Stuart Haden on January 27, 2021

This takes the short and sharp questions of…so what? and by when? to another level. Still short and sharp it’s helpful to also consider.

What can you adopt?

What can you adapt?

A 2 pronged attack. Copy and paste, keep it easy. No need to reinvent the wheel. Thanks for that. Adopted. Parts that you like, needs an addition though. Some but not all. Adapted.


Creating the conditions and conditioning for success

Written by Stuart Haden on January 13, 2021

The environment is key – it influences our mindset, social interactions and creativity to name but a few. But if you are after a double whammy effect then conditions does just that. Effective, double the effect. What is around us, in and out of our control.

Overlaying them both, do we have the conditioning to deal with our conditions? Now it’s closer, influence and impact are easier to come by. A tighter loop. Rather than a widening gap between us and the environment.


What do you short for?

Written by Stuart Haden on December 16, 2020

Just a quick posting that challenges a traditionally held question, what do you long for? Instead flipping it to  – what do you short for? OK it’s clumsy at best, but it changes the narrative of time and presence.

We can easily wriggle out of the longer term question. Blue sky thinking, see you in 5 years time. But the short form can introduce some baby steps, milestones and today’s thinking. It checks for real resonance and it gives perspective.


Who needs flow – to travel, dampen and rebound

Written by Stuart Haden on December 2, 2020

What is the point of being at our very best? Well there’s our core – a centre point, grounded and authentic. In a flow state we go here. Or we go here in order to get into a flow state. Then we need to move, travel from point a to point b. A challenge, goal or a must do.

How can we harness this rocket fuel? Maybe you’ll need it to dampen the effects of other things. Maybe you’ll need it

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Aim for a growth mindset, rather than comparing and contrasting

Written by Stuart Haden on November 18, 2020

Comparing and contrasting is easy, it’s natural – but it’s not always that helpful. For example when it comes to learning it can promote more of a fixed versus growth mindset. Go there, but don’t fix and fixate. It’s just another data point.

Observe, it could be a good starting point, but probably is not a good ending point. Watch your inner narrative, don’t get stuck. Then shift to adapt and adopt. Taking the best and forgetting the rest, changing course

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Lead and lag indicators help to orientate your activities

Written by Stuart Haden on November 4, 2020

Recognising your preferences and priorities is one thing. The clock is ticking, sometimes taking because there is a lead and lag effect. It might take you a while to work out that X priority is now important to you. Too late and it could be a missed or mixed opportunity.

These 4 words (preference, priority, lead and lag) are all well and good but. And it’s a big but…you have to orientate your life around these. Deliberate action at first maybe. Back

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Goals need to be present and positive

Written by Stuart Haden on October 21, 2020

Goal setting is a well held principle. We’ve got SMART ones all over the shop. But there are two factors that are crucial, being present and being positive.

A language of presence. ING. Developing, creating, being. You are already there right now, even if there is more to do. Bringing the goal to the present moment, not some far off distant mountain top.

Then keep it positive. Additions. Stated positively.  A positive state. +++


The highs and lows of self esteem

Written by Stuart Haden on October 7, 2020

Somewhat following up from a previous posting Don’t get high on the high street, I have spotted a mis-match of the highest proportions.

The corporate world wants you to have high self esteem. So that you can be at your best. But we promote low self esteem on the high street, through advertising, branding and comms. So that we can buy products that make us feel better about ourselves.

Of course it gets interesting when many of us flip between the two very

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Does learning break or build confidence?

Written by Stuart Haden on September 23, 2020

When it comes to personal development we often want more, to do something – to build our confidence for example. A typical, but maybe too stereo typical starting point. Equally (together with building) what do you need to break down? To stop, lessen or change.

If transformation is on the cards then most likely activities to break and build will surface, but the sequencing can be key. You might need to do more harm than (then) good initially. We need to hold

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