What do you short for?

Written by Stuart Haden on December 16, 2020

Just a quick posting that challenges a traditionally held question, what do you long for? Instead flipping it to  – what do you short for? OK it’s clumsy at best, but it changes the narrative of time and presence.

We can easily wriggle out of the longer term question. Blue sky thinking, see you in 5 years time. But the short form can introduce some baby steps, milestones and today’s thinking. It checks for real resonance and it gives perspective.

Who needs flow – to travel, dampen and rebound

Written by Stuart Haden on December 2, 2020

What is the point of being at our very best? Well there’s our core – a centre point, grounded and authentic. In a flow state we go here. Or we go here in order to get into a flow state. Then we need to move, travel from point a to point b. A challenge, goal or a must do.

How can we harness this rocket fuel? Maybe you’ll need it to dampen the effects of other things. Maybe you’ll need it

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Aim for a growth mindset, rather than comparing and contrasting

Written by Stuart Haden on November 18, 2020

Comparing and contrasting is easy, it’s natural – but it’s not always that helpful. For example when it comes to learning it can promote more of a fixed versus growth mindset. Go there, but don’t fix and fixate. It’s just another data point.

Observe, it could be a good starting point, but probably is not a good ending point. Watch your inner narrative, don’t get stuck. Then shift to adapt and adopt. Taking the best and forgetting the rest, changing course

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Lead and lag indicators help to orientate your activities

Written by Stuart Haden on November 4, 2020

Recognising your preferences and priorities is one thing. The clock is ticking, sometimes taking because there is a lead and lag effect. It might take you a while to work out that X priority is now important to you. Too late and it could be a missed or mixed opportunity.

These 4 words (preference, priority, lead and lag) are all well and good but. And it’s a big but…you have to orientate your life around these. Deliberate action at first maybe. Back

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Goals need to be present and positive

Written by Stuart Haden on October 21, 2020

Goal setting is a well held principle. We’ve got SMART ones all over the shop. But there are two factors that are crucial, being present and being positive.

A language of presence. ING. Developing, creating, being. You are already there right now, even if there is more to do. Bringing the goal to the present moment, not some far off distant mountain top.

Then keep it positive. Additions. Stated positively.  A positive state. +++

The highs and lows of self esteem

Written by Stuart Haden on October 7, 2020

Somewhat following up from a previous posting Don’t get high on the high street, I have spotted a mis-match of the highest proportions.

The corporate world wants you to have high self esteem. So that you can be at your best. But we promote low self esteem on the high street, through advertising, branding and comms. So that we can buy products that make us feel better about ourselves.

Of course it gets interesting when many of us flip between the two very

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Does learning break or build confidence?

Written by Stuart Haden on September 23, 2020

When it comes to personal development we often want more, to do something – to build our confidence for example. A typical, but maybe too stereo typical starting point. Equally (together with building) what do you need to break down? To stop, lessen or change.

If transformation is on the cards then most likely activities to break and build will surface, but the sequencing can be key. You might need to do more harm than (then) good initially. We need to hold

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After flow you need a low

Written by Stuart Haden on September 9, 2020

The clue is in the name, after flow you need a low. It’s a bit misleading because when we are acting and feeling our best we associate it with a high.

But in order to get there you need low resistance, a narrowed focus. Switch off and re-charge. Lower the pressure and any time restrictions. Do away with that always on mentality and profile. We all know you can’t keep it up.

We aren’t throwing the baby out with the bath water, trying to

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Introducing Endure by Alex Hutchinson

Written by Stuart Haden on August 26, 2020

Endure by Alex Hutchinson is a top book, mixing science, personal stories and even a few myths. There is no overwhelming message, instead it comes from the process of reading and shifting your own mindset.

Pleasing to see that there are no exact recommendations, just take from it want you want. Or what you need. “Nothing is inevitable, nothing is simply mathematical.” Now we can consider our own personal limits.

What are you a commitment to?

Written by Stuart Haden on August 12, 2020

Just a quick edit to a well held question. One that ups the ante. Accountability goes through the roof and success and more likely to be guaranteed. Are you committed? What are you committed to doing next?

No let’s stop the tape and bring the question even closer. Uncomfortably so maybe. What are you a commitment to? No more talk and chitter chatter. Embody and embrace. No more gaps and cracks, commitment will fill those.